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Aug 19
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What If the Thing You’re Avoiding Is the...

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Do you avoid hard things thinking you’re protecting your peace?
Are you mistaking short-term comfort for real self-care?
What if the things you run from are the key to your healing?
How do you know when a boundary has become a wall?

 

In this episode of A Really Good Cry, Radhi Devlukia takes a deep, honest look at avoidance—why we do it, why it feels so good in the moment, and why it can quietly sabotage our happiness, relationships, and growth.

 

She explores how modern “self-care” culture has blurred the lines between protecting our peace and avoiding discomfort, and why choosing the harder, messier path is often the most loving thing we can do for ourselves.

 

From subtle coping habits like overworking or overthinking, to more obvious escapes like walking away from relationships or avoiding difficult conversations, Radhi reveals how avoidance not only delays pain but also keeps us disconnected from our truest selves. She offers practical, compassionate ways to face discomfort, process the past, and build the resilience that creates lasting peace.


In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • The difference between true self-care and disguised avoidance
  • How unprocessed pain lingers in your body and shapes your present
  • Why short-term comfort can lead to long-term struggle
  • How to spot avoidance in subtle everyday behaviors
  • Practical ways to face discomfort and build emotional resilience
  • Why doing “hard things” boosts self-trust and confidence
  • How building resilience in one area of life strengthens all others
  • The long-term freedom that comes from choosing the harder path now

 

Whether you’ve been putting off a conversation, ignoring a past hurt, or avoiding your next big leap, this episode is a compassionate call to stop running—not because life will be pain-free, but because you are stronger than the pain you fear.


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