logo
episode-header-image
Aug 13
49m 27s

Our Marriage Almost Failed Until We Acce...

B-Side
About this episode

In this transformative episode of Lights On, Carl and Laura Lentz confront the uncomfortable truths that most people spend their entire lives avoiding. Together, they reveal the three hard truths that saved their marriage and transformed their lives: why you're 99% responsible for your problems (and solutions), why the relationship with yourself determines everything else, and why comfort is slowly killing your growth. Laura opens up about watching Carl face his emotional illiteracy, while Carl shares his therapy breakthrough discovering the childhood emotion that controlled him for decades. They discuss everything from why your spouse can't fulfill all your needs to the dangerous lie that prayer alone will fix your problems, and why men who can't name their emotions become volcanoes waiting to explode.

This raw conversation exposes the victim mentality that keeps people stuck, the mirror test that changes everything, and why BBLs are the perfect metaphor for our culture's addiction to shortcuts. Whether you're tired of your own excuses, stuck in the same patterns, or ready to stop waiting for someone else to save you, this episode offers the brutal honesty needed for real transformation. Warning: This episode contains hard truths that will challenge your comfort zone and may trigger those committed to their victim stories.

----

Follow Carl at: https://www.instagram.com/carllentz/

Follow Laura at: https://www.instagram.com/lauralentz/

----

Supported by God Behind Bars https://godbehindbars.com

Supported by Plana https://plana.org/

----

CHAPTERS:

00:00 -  Your Spouse Cannot Fulfill All Your Needs 

06:00 - Truth #1: You Are 99% The Problem AND The Solution

09:31 - The Victim Mentality & Morgan Wallen's Easy Way Out

21:24 - God Behind Bars Partnership

22:02 - Truth #2: The Most Important Relationship Is With Yourself

27:20 - Why Repressed Emotions Make You a Volcano

33:02 - Carl's Therapy Breakthrough: The Terror He Carried for 5 Years

37:03 - Plana.org Partnership: Help for the Unexpected

37:49 - Truth #3: Growth Only Happens Outside Comfort

40:33 - BBLs & Ozempic: Why Shortcuts Always Fail

43:55 - "Prayer Without Work Is Just Wishful Thinking"

46:05 - The One-Week Challenge: Live as Your Best Version

49:17 - "The Hard Truth Is I Love You"

See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Up next
Aug 20
23 Years of Secret Addiction: A Pastor's Shocking Recovery Story
In this raw and unprecedented episode of Lights On, Carl Lentz sits down for an exclusive interview with Blaine Bartel, a former megachurch pastor who built one of America's largest youth ministries before losing everything due to a 23-year secret addiction. For the first time, B ... Show More
1h 7m
Aug 6
"Why I Didn't Leave My Cheating Husband" - Laura Lentz Opens Up
In this raw and unprecedented episode of Lights On, Carl Lentz sits down for an exclusive interview with his wife Laura – the woman who chose to stay when 99.9% of people said she should leave. For the first time, Laura opens up about the moment that made her stay, the day-by-day ... Show More
54m 1s
Jul 30
Why Your Kids Don’t Want to Spend Time With You (And How To Fix That)
In this deeply personal episode of Lights On, a father sits down with his wife Laura and daughter to reveal the unconventional family culture that has their kids choosing couch time over parties. They dive into the "corny" traditions that actually work, why confrontation leads to ... Show More
58m 2s
Recommended Episodes
Mar 2021
66. Dr. Daniel Amen: How Your Body Uses Pain As A Warning Sign for Chronic Illness
Dr. Daniel Amen is back on the show to share his expertise on brain health and the methods to break bad habits and overcome negative self talk in his new book, "Your Brain Is Always Listening." Tune into learn about how to identify hidden influences that impact your mental health ... Show More
41 m
Jun 23
#958 - Dr Daniel Amen - The 11 Risk Factors That Are Destroying Your Brain
Dr. Daniel Amen is a psychiatrist, brain-health researcher, founder of the Amen Clinics & New York Times bestselling author. You only get one brain, so how do you keep it healthy for life? Dr. Daniel Amen has scanned over half a million brains and knows exactly what helps and wha ... Show More
1h 48m
May 13
How To Future-Proof Your Brain: Simple Daily Practices to Improve Focus, Energy, Memory, Mood & Emotional Wellbeing with Dr Daniel Amen #555
What if the health of your brain determined the health of every other part of your life – your body, your relationships, even your sense of purpose? Today’s guest firmly believes that it does. Dr Daniel Amen is a child and adult psychiatrist, who is on a mission to end mental ill ... Show More
1h 32m
Jan 2025
Becoming Your Best Self: Habits to Develop Mental Toughness and Brain Health in 2025 with America’s Most Popular Psychiatrist, Dr. Daniel Amen, Ep. 208
Dr. Daniel Amen, groundbreaking physician, psychiatrist and clinic director, has helped people for decades achieve mental wellness by teaching them how to make better choices with their diet and lifestyle in order to be more in tune with their brain's health and function. The fou ... Show More
37m 44s
Jun 3
How To Gain Control Over Your Mind, The Healing Power of Discomfort & The True Essence of Happiness with Dr Alok Kanojia #561
In a world that’s never been more comfortable, why are so many people struggling? This week, my guest is Dr. Alok Kanojia, medical doctor, psychiatrist and one of the world’s foremost authorities on mental health for the gaming community. He is known online as Dr K and is the co- ... Show More
2h 13m
Apr 2025
How To Awaken Your Brain To Heal Yourself
Get my New York Times Bestselling book, Make Money Easy!The awakened brain's extraordinary power to transform our mental health lies at the intersection of spirituality and neuroscience. This episode proves that. Dr. Lisa Miller reveals it through groundbreaking research showing ... Show More
1h 11m
Feb 2024
The Effects of Alcohol on your Brain and How You Can Fix It ft. Dr. Daniel Amen
Dr. Daniel Amen is a celebrity psychiatrist, brain disorder specialist, and director at Amen Clinics. Today, Dr. Amen explains the effects alcohol and weed have on your brain and how it alters your brain chemistry. He also dives into ways you can show your brain some love and com ... Show More
9m 1s
Aug 2024
198. Dr. Brian Licuanan | How to Get Your Resisting Loved One into Treatment
The World’s #1 Personal Development Book Podcast!  Today’s episode is sponsored by Ken Rusk, if you’re ready to get UNSTUCK check out the links below: https://courses.kenrusk.com/ https://www.kenrusk.com/ ————————————————————————— In today’s episode we have the pleasure to interv ... Show More
40m 36s
Apr 2025
How To Break Unconscious Patterns, The Power of Meditation, The Truth About Dopamine & Creating Lasting Change with Dr Joe Dispenza #549
Almost everyone today is addicted to something. From phones and social media to alcohol and drugs, our modern life has created an unprecedented epidemic of dependency. But what is actually driving this addiction and how can we actually break free? This week’s returning guest is D ... Show More
1h 31m
Aug 2024
Brain Experts: THIS Causes Trauma Bonding! Use These Strategies To Heal!
SUMMIT OF GREATNESS IS LESS THAN 1 MONTH AWAY! Have you gotten your tickets yet? Get them before they sell out at https://www.lewishowes.com/tickets Welcome back to The School of Greatness! In this powerful episode, we dive deep into the transformative journey of healing from tra ... Show More
59m 30s