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Aug 12
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413. Coaching Hotline: Goal Thoughts & A...

KARA LOEWENTHEIL
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Ever notice how your brain immediately pushes back when you try to change those old, deeply ingrained thoughts? It feels like proof you’re doing it wrong—but actually, that resistance is exactly what should happen when you challenge those patterns. In this Coaching Hotline episode, I dive into two powerful questions—one about creating new goal thoughts when nothing feels believable, and another about managing the anxiety that comes with anxious attachment (specifically when your partner doesn’t text back at night).

You’ll learn why your brain’s objections to new thoughts are a sign you’re on the right track, not a reason to quit—and why you don’t need to believe your goal thought just yet. I also break down how to work with thought ladders when everything feels wrong, and why anxious attachment isn’t about what your partner is doing—it’s about the story you’re making up about it.

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