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Jul 31
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5 Signs of Low Self Esteem & How To Buil...

Mary Jelkovsky
About this episode

A lack of self-confidence doesn’t always scream at you—sometimes it whispers in the background of your day. Today,  Mary shares 5 not-so-obvious signs that your self-confidence might be quietly taking a hit… signs she’s personally working through, too.

These confidence red flags are common, especially amongst women. From seeking validation in the wrong places to constantly doubting your decisions, exploring self-confidence struggles can also help you shift them. If you’re ready to stop second-guessing yourself and start trusting your own inner wisdom, this episode is for you.

You will learn how to... 

  • stop trying to fill inner voids with external things (AKA build self-worth from within)
  • start trusting yourself more, even when life feels uncertain
  • break out of a victim mindset and reassure yourself that you are enough

 

Because here’s the truth about confidence: no amount of success, praise, or “shiny new thing” will give you lasting confidence or a truly positive mindset. You’re the only one who can create those feelings within yourself. And while that might sound daunting, it’s also incredibly empowering.

And make sure to get Mary’s books two on self-love: 

  • The Gift of Self-Love: https://maryscupoftea.com/gift-of-self-love. This is a self-love workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.
  • 100 Days of Self-Love: maryscupoftea.com/journal. This is a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.

 

If you’re enjoying this self-love podcast, share it with the women in your life! Just don't say Mary's Cup of Tea is the best self-love podcast for women ;)


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