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Jul 31
14m 16s

She Doesn't Want Your Vulnerability, She...

Connor Beaton
About this episode

Talking points: relationships

So many men fall into a very specific (and usually confusing) trap. They're asked to "be more vulnerable", they go way too far with it, and it ends up pushing the partner into the mother/caregiver/therapist role way too often.


I've talked about this before, but let's go deeper. Here's how to interpret what's actually being asked of you.


(00:00:00) - What a woman does NOT mean, and one of the paradoxes of dating

(00:07:48) - What does she want, really?

(00:09:01) - What can’t be filled by romance—and what it actually takes

(00:12:14) - Don’t project spiritual meaning onto sexual instinct


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