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Nov 14
19m 34s

Avoidant Gaslighting- Spot It & Stop It

Connor Beaton
About this episode

I unpack the subtle and often misunderstood behavior known as avoidant gaslighting. I explore why avoidant partners distort truth, not always to manipulate, but to protect themselves, and how these patterns create distance and erode trust. You’ll learn how to recognize this behavior, respond without escalating, and set boundaries that foster accountability and connection.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS

00:00 - What is avoidant gaslighting?

02:50 - Truth distortion and misremembering

05:26 - “The Turn” and shifting blame

07:39 - Why avoidants retreat from closeness

10:04 - How to name and address the behavior

13:42 - Tools for shared accountability

15:56 - Avoidant awareness vs. defensiveness

17:27 - Building reflection and self-awareness


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