May 5

What "If He Wanted To He Would" Is Actually Doing To Your Relationship

“If he wanted to he would” doesn’t create clarity it creates pressure, testing, and a constant feeling of “am I being chosen enough?” And that’s where the spiral starts. In this episode, we break down: 💭 Why “if he wanted to he would” fuels overthinking and relationship anxiety ... Show More

19m 32s

Apr 28

Are You Testing Your Partner Without Realizing It?

Have you ever pulled back just to see if they notice? Waited to text… to see if they text first? Stayed quiet about what you wanted… just to see if they remembered? Yeah. That counts as testing. And if you’re doing this (even subtly) it might be the exact reason your relationship ... Show More

19m 58s

Apr 21

What I Changed To Stop Chasing Constant Reassurance

We're talking about the loop today. The one where you keep checking: "Are we good?" "Do you still like me?" "Is everything okay?" And even when they reassure you… it doesn’t stick. In this episode, we talk about: 💭 Why reassurance feels good… but never lasts 🧠 The sneaky way re ... Show More

18m 6s

Dec 2021

Ep 27: Break Up Smarter, Not Harder

On today's episode of the Unf*ck Your Relationships podcast, we're talking about how to deal when you get your heart broken. Whether you were the initiator, on the receiving end, or the series finale was a mutual decision; breakups are tough to handle. All the questions ... Show More

26m 38s

Aug 2025

Stop Overthinking: How to Beat Anxiety in Dating

Anxiety has a sneaky way of showing up in our love lives . . . whether it’s overthinking a text or worrying about someone’s shifting energy. But what if you could stop anxiety before it takes over? In this episode, Matthew, Audrey, and Stephen get personal as they unpack how anxi ... Show More

1h 23m

Aug 2024

Don't Let Your Anxiety Sabotage Your Relationships (What To Do Instead!)

There are many ways anxiety can show up in our relationships. When we like someone and worry about them losing interest. When we're waiting for a text back. When we overthink in a relationship. In this episode, Matt and Audrey talk about the fears that activate anxious be ... Show More

42m 26s

Nov 2025

#294 Navigating Anxious and Avoidant Attachments with Julie Mennano

In today's expert episode, I'm interviewing Julie Mennano, who you might know from her <a href="https://www.thesecurerelationship.com/the-secure-love-podcast" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Secure Love podcast </a>or her super insightful Instagram account <a href="h ... Show More

45m 28s

Nov 2024

#23 - The REAL Reason Your Relationships Keep Falling Apart

In this week’s episode of Finding The One, Danny and Jen don’t hold back as they dive into the messy reality of relationship conflict. After a tough night dealing with their daughter’s fever, they start unpacking a common pattern they keep seeing: that back-and-forth cycle of int ... Show More

46m 49s

May 2022

Ep 49: Please Calm Down: How to Date With Anxious Attachment

Oh hey, all my Anxious Attachment bitches. How's it going? By "it" I specifically mean dating- not great? Well, that's why I'm here so listen up. Before you know it we'll have you dating appropriate men with confidence and ease. No stalking your phone/ their social media pages ... Show More

29m 11s

May 2025

Jessica Baum & Adam Lane Smith: Why Emotional Safety Is the Key to Real Love

In this powerful episode, attachment expert Jessica Baum joins Adam Lane Smith to unpack one of the most essential yet misunderstood pillars of a healthy relationship: emotional safety. Together, they explore why safety isn’t just a “nice to have” in love, but a biological and ... Show More

1h 19m

Sep 2021

Ep 12: Connected AF Week - Day Four - How I Went From Feeling Insecure AF to Being in a Healthy and Secure Relationship

In this episode of the Unf*ck Your Relationships Podcast, I am sharing Day three of my Connected AF Week. I'm going to be speaking on how I went from constantly needing external validation and going from man to man to being in a healthy, secure relationship. (hint: it's not al ... Show More

33m 49s

Dec 2021

Ep 28: Ghosting & You: A Lesson on Remembering Your Worth

On today's episode of the Unf*ck Your Relationships podcast, we're talking about how to give up the ghost — of a relationship, that is. While it's probably gone on forever, these days the term for disappearing when dating is termed ghosting, and it can really throw you ... Show More

26m 22s

Nov 2025

209. Why Self-Trust Is the Key to Feeling Safe in Love w/ Sarah Yudkin

Are you overthinking your relationship? Do you ever wonder if it’s love or just anxiety?In this episode, I share my journey from relationship anxiety to building true inner safety and self-trust. I'm joined by Sarah Yudkin, creator of You Love and You Learn, to explore releasing ... Show More

53m 39s

The Hidden Damage Overthinking Does to Y...