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Jul 25
17m 34s

the 5 laws of self-obsession | how to bu...

Tam Kaur
About this episode

the 5 laws of self-obsession aren’t about being selfish — they’re about how to build unshakable confidence, protect your peace, and start choosing you. in this episode, i share the mindset shifts that helped me heal, stop people pleasing, and finally become the most confident, grounded version of myself. we’ll talk self-love, boundaries, personal growth, and how to rewrite the stories you tell yourself. if you’ve ever been told you’re “too much” for simply prioritizing yourself — this one’s for you. ✨ it’s time to reclaim your power and start living for you. 💅🏽💭💖


♡  WHAT'S IN THIS VIDEO:

00:00 Introduction: Why Self-Obsession Isn’t Selfish

01:11 Critique of Societal Views on Self-Obsession

02:41 Law 1: The Mirror Law

06:22 Law 2: The Boundary Law

08:25 Law 3: The Celebration Law

10:18 Law 4: The Upgrade Law

13:04 Law 5: The Rewire Law

15:52 Final Words of Empowerment



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