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132. Love Letter: When to Get New Friend...

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In this post-birthday solo episode, Jess is a changed woman. She shares the hacks she used to get the most of her time off, and one in particular might rock everything you've ever known about her.

Then she turns to listener-submitted complaints, covering everything from boob sweat to body image. Jess has been having a lot of personal reactions and reflections when it comes to the recent online movement that thinner is better (#Skinnytok), and she unloads them all in this episode - not because she has answers, but because she deeply relates to those of us who feel the pressure to lose weight for special events and look small for other people's approval. If that conversation isn't for you today, feel free to skip ahead to 21:55.

Jess also gets her hands dirty with two friendship-related whatados, which both seem more complicated than they really are once she breaks them down. When to chalk it up to negativity and impose boundaries? When to compromise vs. when to speak your mind? She has opinions.

Plus, labubus and The Bachelor, and a very special announcement that her first podcast - Peaking - is back! Find it on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, and more to support Jess beyond this space.


This episode was produced by your lover, Jess DeBakey.

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