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Jul 24
38m 37s

Ep. 284: The Predator in the Chat: How a...

DR. MEG MEEKER
About this episode

When 12-year-old Harrison Haynes met a 19-year-old “mentor” in an online game, it felt like a friendship—until it turned into manipulation and abuse.

In this powerful episode of Parenting Great Kids, Dr. Meg Meeker talks with Harrison about his firsthand experience with online grooming, how his mental health struggles played a role, and the steps his parents took to intervene and help him heal. Now, Harrison is turning his pain into purpose—advocating for digital safety and youth protection.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • How online grooming begins and escalates
  • The emotional vulnerabilities predators target
  • How Harrison’s parents recognized the signs and took action
  • What legal and emotional challenges followed
  • Digital safety tips every parent needs today


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Episode Breakdown

00:00 – Introduction to Harrison’s Story

00:35 – Early signs of emotional struggles

01:25 – The online “friendship” begins

03:06 – How grooming unfolded

05:25 – Mental health and manipulation

08:49 – The turning point

12:34 – Breaking free and getting help

16:37 – Parental involvement and intervention

18:54 – Reporting and law enforcement

18:59 – Family reactions and emotions

19:32 – Reflecting on warning signs

20:53 – Legal frustrations and realities

22:02 – Coping, therapy, and healing

23:44 – Advice for today’s digital parents

26:42 – Harrison’s advocacy and youth empowerment

29:16 – Living life without a smartphone

31:20 – 5 practical tech safety strategies

35:04 – Community support and personal growth


About Harrison Haynes

Harrison Hayes was just 12 years old when he was groomed by a stranger he met through online gaming. Today, he’s a leading voice in digital safety advocacy—raising awareness about the hidden dangers of social media, gaming, and texting. Through his work with survivor-led organizations like The Wired Human Youth Coalition and his independent project, Digitally Intentional, Harrison empowers families and youth to think critically and live intentionally in the digital age.

He believes online safety isn’t just about restriction—it’s about awareness, intentionality, and action.

👉 Learn more about Harrison’s work at digitallyintentional.org


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