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Jul 16
14m 52s

Guy Winch On The Science Of Why You NEED...

Alice Draper
About this episode

Heartbreak doesn’t just feel like withdrawal. It is withdrawal.

In this short, powerful replay, psychologist and author Guy Winch explains why breakups hurt so much and why trying to “stay friends” with your ex might be sabotaging your recovery.

He breaks down the neuroscience of heartbreak, compares it to addiction, and shares why going cold turkey - unfollowing, muting, and cutting contact - isn’t dramatic. It’s necessary.

You’ll hear:

  • Why heartbreak activates the same brain regions as physical pain

  • The science behind why you’re obsessively thinking about your ex

  • How heartbreak mimics the brain patterns of drug withdrawal

  • Why unfollowing your ex is a psychological intervention, not a petty move

  • What to do instead of re-reading old messages or checking their feed

This is a must-listen if you, or someone you love, can’t stop going back to the ghost of a relationship.

Resources & Mentions:

  • Guy Winch’s TED Talk: How to Fix a Broken Heart, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k0GQSJrpVhM&pp=0gcJCfwAo7VqN5tD

  • Book: How to Fix a Broken Heart, https://www.amazon.com/How-Fix-Broken-Heart-Books/dp/1501120123

  • Podcast: Dear Therapists, https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dear-therapists-with-lori-gottlieb-and-guy-winch/id1523340696

  • Website: guywinch.com

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