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Jul 2025
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relationship RED flags that are actually...

Tam Kaur
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<p>💚 you might be pushing away healthy love without even realizing it. in today’s episode, we’re talking about the 10 “red flags” in men that are actually signs of emotional maturity — and why your past might be making you miss them. from taking time to reply, moving slow, having female friends, or even being a little “boring”… these things aren’t toxic, they’re actually green flags 🫶</p>


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<p><strong>♡ WHAT'S IN THIS VIDEO:</strong><br>

00:00 – Introduction<br>

01:45 – Debunking Dating Red Flags<br>

01:49 – Green Flag #1: He is Picky<br>

03:13 – Green Flag #2: He Rejects You<br>

04:54 – Green Flag #3: No Past Relationships<br>

05:55 – Green Flag #4: Has Female Friends<br>

07:11 – Green Flag #5: Takes Time to Texting Back<br>

09:03 – Green Flag #6: Challenges You<br>

10:36 – Green Flag #7: He Has His Own Life<br>

12:03 – Green Flag #8: He Moves Slow<br>

13:53 – Green Flag #9: There Are No Sparks<br>

15:48 – Conclusion</p>


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