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Jul 2022

21m 32s

#18: Relationship Red Flags & Green Flag...

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In this episode, I'm sharing with you 5 of the red flags that I see in relationships, along with their healthier, "green flag" alternatives. We'll talk through things like knowing where you stand with someone, communication of needs and concerns, trust and commitment, how integrated you are into each other's lives, and how you approach conflict (and repair).

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