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Jul 14
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Are you a control freak? Here's the cost...

Valerie Jones
About this episode

If you call yourslef a 'control freak' like it's a badge of honour, this one's for you. 

In this episode, I break down the truth about control: why it's not strength, what it's actually costing you in your body, your mind, and your relationships, and how to finally start letting go without everything falling apart. 

We talk about: 

  • The fear that hides under control 
  • Why you're gripping things you don't even need to carry 
  • The toll control takes on your nervous system, sleep, and confidence 
  • The difference between what's actually yours to hold and what isn't 
  • Why being a relaxed woman is your most powerful move. 

And I leave you with one simple challenge you can take today to start practicing trust - in yourself and the people around you. 

If you're tired of being 'the strong one' and ready to feel lighter, softer, and more magnetic, listen to this. 

And don't forget to share it with the strongest woman you know. 

Pre-order The Selfish Year and join Selfish Summer Camp 

Email me: valerie@valeriejonescoach.com

 

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