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Jul 14
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EP 561: They Don’t Actually Need “Time”:...

DR. MORGAN ANDERSON
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In this episode, I’m getting real with you about something I see far too often; confusing desire for capacity. 


Just because someone wants a relationship doesn’t mean they have the tools, healing, or emotional availability to actually maintain one. I break down the difference between desire and capacity, how your attachment style impacts what you tolerate, and the importance of reality testing and emotional self-awareness. 


We also explore why healing your past is non-negotiable if you want secure love, and how your self-worth sets the foundation for what you allow and attract in relationships.


Inside today’s episode: 


  • You can deeply desire love and still not have the capacity for a healthy relationship—capacity requires healing, emotional availability, and secure attachment.
  • Actions always speak louder than words—someone's behavior will tell you everything you need to know about their readiness.
  • Self-worth is the foundation for choosing partners who are capable, attuned, and aligned with your needs; secure attachment begins with you.


If this episode spoke to you, it’s time to take ownership of your healing. 


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