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Jul 3
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TAM+ EP76 - The Power of Caring About Th...

Duane Osterlind, LMFT
About this episode

Ever feel like you’re pouring your energy into the wrong things? You’re not alone. In this game-changing episode of The Addicted Mind Plus, hosts Duane and Eric Osterlind tackle the secret to caring about the right things. They take a deep dive into how aligning your thoughts, words, and actions can unlock true happiness and fulfillment.

Download: Caring About The Right Things worksheet.

The conversation kicks off with an inspiring quote from Mahatma Gandhi about finding harmony in life—a perfect starting point for an episode full of “aha!” moments. Duane and Eric explore why so many of us, especially those battling addiction or mental health struggles, waste time and energy on things that don’t really matter. Sound familiar?

But don’t worry—they’ve got your back. The hosts share practical, no-nonsense advice on how to identify your core values and use them as a personal GPS for better decision-making. With their guidance, you'll learn how to cut stress, build resilience, and tackle life’s challenges without losing sight of what truly matters.

The episode also breaks down an actionable five-step plan to help you live a more aligned and meaningful life. From identifying your core values to practicing mindful decision-making, letting go of what you can’t control, and cultivating self-compassion, Duane and Eric make it easy to start making changes today.

This isn’t just about ditching the things that drain you—it’s about being intentional with your energy and care. The hosts remind us that aligning with your values is a journey, not a quick fix. It takes time, patience, and a healthy dose of self-love.

Whether you’re on the road to recovery or just looking to level up your personal growth, this episode is packed with insights and actionable tips to help you live a more authentic, balanced, and fulfilling life. Ready to start caring about the things that truly matter? Tune in now!


Download: Caring About The Right Things worksheet.

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Key Topics

  • Identifying and aligning with core values
  • The impact of caring about the wrong things
  • Mindful decision-making based on personal values
  • Letting go of uncontrollable factors
  • Cultivating self-compassion in the process of change
  • The link between value alignment and stress reduction
  • Practical steps for living a more congruent life


Timestamps

[00:01:18] Introduction to the topic of caring about the right things

[00:02:52] Discussion on finding harmony and happiness

[00:05:30] The power to change and align with true values

[00:07:11] Steps to identify and focus on what truly matters

[00:10:25] Breakdown of the five-step process for living a congruent life

[00:13:44] Importance of letting go of the uncontrollable

[00:15:44] Closing thoughts and worksheet information


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