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Jul 2
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EP 558: 10 Relationship Defense Mechanis...

DR. MORGAN ANDERSON
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In this episode of the Let's Get Vulnerable podcast, I unpack the hidden ways we protect ourselves from intimacy, and how those patterns keep us stuck. 


We are breaking down common relationship defense mechanisms like sarcasm, emotional numbing, idealizing, and devaluing, and I show you what to do instead if you're ready for a deep, connected relationship.


Inside this episode: 

  • The truth about how we protect ourselves in relationships (and how it backfires)
  • Common defense mechanisms like devaluation, humor, avoidance, and control
  • How to respond differently so you can build real connection

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