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Jun 30
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The Myth of ‘The One’: Why Soulmates Are...

The Angry Therapist
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Today, John unpacks the modern myth of the soulmate — and flips it on its head. Instead of chasing “the one,” he invites us to rethink soulmates as built, not found— and explores how true connection comes not from perfection, but from shared growth, challenges, and the courage to repair after rupture. Single On Purpose School⁠⁠⁠ starts July 9th! A 6-week ... Show More
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