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Jun 19
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Why Boundaries are Hard but Necessary fo...

Amanda Hess: Certified Life Coach For Neurodivergent Women
About this episode

Setting boundaries can feel like a radical and scary act, especially if you've spent years people-pleasing. The discomfort that comes with saying no often feels worse than the exhaustion of constantly saying yes. For those who feel deeply and strongly, this challenge becomes even more complex because you've likely learned to take responsibility for other people's comfort, feelings, and reactions.

In this episode, I explore why boundary-setting feels like disconnection for deep feelers and highly sensitive people. You'll discover practical strategies for moving through the guilt that inevitably shows up when you start setting boundaries. Most importantly, you'll learn why boundaries are for you, not rules for others, and how to give people back their feelings while tending to your own.

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