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Jun 19
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#29 - How to Build Discipline That Actua...

Shona Vertue
About this episode

If you’ve ever felt like discipline is just another word for self-punishment, this episode is for you.
I’m sharing a personal story about how my most “disciplined” season ended in burnout… and what I finally realised I’d been running from.

We’ll explore the science of approach vs. avoidance motivation, and how your reason for showing up; fear vs. desire, can quietly shape your habits, workouts, and even your self-worth.

I’ll also reframe the idea of discipline as something rooted in devotion, not force.

And I’ll leave you with a small but powerful practice to help you reconnect with your body, so you can want to show up again, not just force yourself to.

Because true consistency isn’t built on burnout.
It’s built on desire.

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