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Jun 2025
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210. First Impression to Lasting Impact:...

Matt Abrahams, Think Fast Talk Smart
About this episode

Career success takes a status boost, not a power grab.


How do you chart the career course you’ve always imagined? According to Alison Fragale, it’s about gaining influence through status, power, and ultimately, being “a likeable badass.”

As a research psychologist, professor, speaker, and author, Fragale is on a mission to help women take control of their careers. In her book Likeable Badass: How Women Get the Success They Deserve, she argues that most people have it backwards when pursuing career advancement. "We have talked for a long time [about] getting more power," she explains. However, by focusing first on achieving status (how respected we are), power will often come as a natural byproduct. "If you pursue status before, or at least alongside power, everything is going to fall into place," she says. “Status makes power a lot easier to achieve, and it makes power a lot easier to use.”

In this episode of Think Fast, Talk Smart, hosted by executive producer Jenny Luna, Fragale explores the communication strategies of a likeable badass, from building warmth and assertiveness to authentically connecting with colleagues. Whether you're building relationships in a new company or have been leading one for years, Fragale’s insights will help you command respect while communicating with kindness.

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Chapters:

  • (00:00) - Introduction
  • (02:27) - Defining Power and Status
  • (05:32) - Why Status Comes Before Power
  • (06:25) - Communication Techniques to Build Status
  • (09:33) - Evaluating Your Habits: Nonverbal and Verbal Cues
  • (11:27) - Mentorship in Developing Communication
  • (13:19) - Adapting to a New Work Culture
  • (18:47) - Representing Difference Without Distance
  • (19:55) - Overcoming Bad First Impressions
  • (22:27) - The Final Three Question
  • (26:12) - Conclusion

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