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Jun 2025
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304. Why we grieve past versions of ours...

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Why does personal growth sometimes feel like a quiet loss? Ever look back at an old photo and feel a strange mix of nostalgia and sadness for the person you once were? You're evolving, becoming stronger, wiser, but there's still a strange ache for the person you used to be. In today's episode, we explore the psychology behind this often-unspoken phenomenon of grieving our past selves.

Things we discuss:

  • What it means to grieve a former 'you’
  • The role of disenfranchised grief 
  • The ‘nostalgia trap’
  • Our evolving sense of self and the fluidity of identity
  • Why we romanticise the past
  • How we can integrate past versions of ourselves and embracing growth

If you've ever felt that subtle pang for a past version of yourself, this episode is for you!

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