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Mar 2025
26m 10s

Stop Looking at Old Pictures of Yourself...

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About this episode

How often do you look at old photos and think, I looked so much better then?

It’s so easy to romanticize the past, to hold onto this idea that our younger self was somehow better—but was she actually happier? Did she feel whole, confident, and at peace? Or was she just as self-conscious, just as critical, just as unsure?

In this episode of A Really Good Cry, I dive deep into something I’ve been working on myself—grieving the past versions of me while learning to fully embrace the woman I am today. We’ll talk about why aging feels so daunting, how society tricks us into believing our worth fades with time, and the mindset shifts that can truly set us free.

I also share the biggest lesson I’ve learned from my grandma, who at 90 years old is the most beautiful, vibrant force of nature—inside and out. Because here’s the truth: our value isn’t tied to how we look, how young we are, or how much we’ve changed. It’s about how deeply we live, love, and grow.

So if you’ve been feeling like you’re losing parts of yourself with time, this one’s for you. Let’s shift that perspective, together.

 

What Was Discussed:

  • 00:00 Intro
  • 02:21 The one lesson that changed how I see aging 
  • 03:40 Why are we afraid of growing old?
  • 05:36 What if aging is actually a gift?
  • 07:18 The mindset shift that changed how I see aging
  • 11:19 My grandma’s secret to thriving at 90
  • 13:02 Were you really happier when you were younger?
  • 15:05 Why “You don’t look your age” isn’t a compliment
  • 16:11 How to actually enjoy the age you’re in
  • 18:35 Three truths to remember when you feel insecure
  • 20:30 How embracing aging helps you embrace yourself

 

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