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Jun 11
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Episode 114: Masculinity In The Modern W...

Meg and Jacob O'Neill
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“Without lineage, a man becomes a wanderer in his own body.”


This one’s a rite of passage in itself.

Jacob sits down with Kale Kaalehaki, cultural revivalist, father, and co-founder of Sacred Souls, to speak on what most modern men are missing, not breathwork, not biohacks, not six-packs… but belonging.

Together, they unpack why grief is the doorway to manhood, how routine without reverence keeps us hollow, and what it truly means to return to land, lineage, and life as sacred.

This one’s for the men who’ve trained, regulated, achieved, and still feel hollow.

This one’s for the ones ready to come back to land, to ritual, to story, to fire.

To what was never supposed to be forgotten.

If you’ve ever felt like your nervous system was regulated but your soul still felt lost, this conversation is the fire you didn’t know you needed.


🔥 Here’s What We Dive Into:

  • Why the “self-made man” is a myth rooted in disconnection
  • The spiritual condition of modernity, and why most men are culturally orphaned
  • The difference between initiation and rite of passage (and why both matter)
  • How routine without ritual leaves men spiritually starving
  • Parenting, grief, and the unexpected initiations of fatherhood
  • Sacred reciprocity: reclaiming relationship with land, air, and water
  • Why nervous system work isn’t enough without soul confrontation
  • The return to songs, stories, offerings—and building true belonging


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