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Feb 2025
37m 25s

Ep. 239: My Unfiltered Opinions on Marri...

Mary Jelkovsky
About this episode

Mary shares her candid thoughts on modern dating, relationships, marriage and how to approach romantic love with self-love. From the age-old debate about who should pay for the first date to the importance of embodying the qualities you seek in a partner, this episode is filled with honest reflections and thought-provoking insights. Mary challenges traditional relationship narratives, encourages self-reflection, and reminds us that love is not the only path to a fulfilling life.

You will learn about...

  • why the person who makes the invitation should pay for the date (and why this often falls on men)
  • the unseen emotional and energetic labor women contribute to relationships
  • the importance of becoming the person you want to be with
  • rethinking the idea that relationships must be hard work
  • why love alone is not always enough

Remember: You teach people how to treat you by how you treat yourself.

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Get Mary’s self-love books:

  1. The Gift of Self-Love, an interactive workbook that will help you build confidence, recognize your worth, and learn to finally love yourself.
  2. 100 Days of Self-Love, a guided journal with 100 prompts to help you calm self-criticism and learn to love who you are.

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