logo
episode-header-image
Jun 2025
35m 41s

Black Women Are Not Stepping Off The Sid...

Brown Girl Self-Care
About this episode

Listen to the episode from 2020

Link to the free mini quide

In this episode, I share a moment that caught even me by surprise — when I was out walking and found myself shoulder-checking someone who didn’t make space for me on the sidewalk. It wasn’t aggressive. It wasn’t loud. But it was intentional.

And I didn’t apologize.

This story became a reflection on the ways Black women are taught to shrink, to step aside, to stay small — and what it means to finally stop doing that.

I talk about:

  • What really happened that day on the sidewalk
  • How that moment helped me see how much I’ve yielded in the past
  • The truth I didn’t want to admit: it was intentional — and I’m not sorry
  • The quiet power in holding your ground when you’ve been trained not to
  • Why taking up space isn’t arrogance — it’s ancestral

This episode is for the Black woman who’s tired of stepping aside — physically, emotionally, or spiritually — just to keep the peace. If you’ve been shrinking and you’re ready to return to yourself, this one is for you.



Our Sponsors:
* Check out Progressive: https://www.progressive.com
* Check out Wonderful Pistachios: https://WonderfulPistachios.com


Support this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-content

Advertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brands

Privacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
Up next
Oct 6
In My 50s, No 9-5 In Six Years, And Rebuilding My LIfe (Spicy Language!)
There is a bit of cussery in this episode, heads up.I’m in my 50s and haven’t worked a traditional job in six years. In this episode, I’m sharing how I walked away from my job, the ways I’ve sustained myself, and what rebuilding my dream life actually looks like.I talk about:Why ... Show More
48m 41s
Sep 30
Centering Sisterhood Because Nobody Cares About Black Women But Us
I tried recording this episode on Sunday and when I went to upload it, there was no audio. So I decided to hop onto Youtube Live on Monday morning and record it there. *Trigger Warning* In todays episode I'll be sharing about a young Black woman who unfortunately took her own lif ... Show More
35m 19s
Sep 22
Black Women Aren't Supposed to Do These Extreme Self-Care Acts
I want to preface this episode with a couple of things:#1 – Extreme self-care isn’t about shock value. It’s about survival, liberation, and choosing yourself when everything around you says don’t.#2 – The choices I’m sharing in this episode may feel uncomfortable, even unthinkabl ... Show More
45m 44s
Recommended Episodes
May 2025
The Truth About Healing, Growth & Reinventing Yourself (that no one tells you)
This episode is a soft landing — for the parts of you that are tired of pretending, pushing, or waiting for the perfect moment to begin again.In today’s conversation, I’m pulling back the curtain and getting real about what healing has actually looked like for me — the messy midd ... Show More
19m 5s
Nov 2024
Keeping Quiet Keeps the Peace
I was taught that keeping quiet kept the peace until I realized whose peace is it keeping? After voicing my opinion in a video last week, I received a few comments that read, "I used to like you, but now I need to unfollow." My first reaction was to laugh it off, but as I sat wit ... Show More
24m 31s
Jun 2025
Do you Struggle To Be Quiet?
Most people can’t sit in silence.They fill every space with noise, distractions, and chatter because sitting with yourself is confronting.But what if the real magic happens in the stillness?In this episode, I’m sharing what I’ve learned about silence, presence, and the deep disco ... Show More
18m 40s
Mar 2025
THE ONE THAT GOT AWAY - Make Them Miss You & Take Your Power Back | Mafe's Sessions #3
MAFE'S SESSIONS #3We’ve all heard the phrase “the one that got away” — but what does it actually mean? It’s not about being someone’s biggest regret or proving a point. It’s about becoming so secure, radiant, and aligned with yourself that losing you feels like a missed oppor ... Show More
14m 15s
Dec 2023
Candid Confessions: I Thought I Knew What Surrender Was
In this episode I share the evolution of ‘Surrender’ in my life… what I thought it meant… what it REALLY means… and that I’m still a work in progress. Surrender to me is about letting go and letting God, the Divine, the Great One, the Universe handle the details. The trick is doi ... Show More
41m 45s
Oct 2024
Focus on Yourself: 3 Signs You’re Giving Too Much & What to Do About It Right Now
When was the last time you said "no" without feeling guilty? Or set a boundary and actually stuck to it? If you can’t remember, today’s episode is the wake-up call you need. Boundaries can protect your time, energy, and mental space, and yet for so many of us, boundaries are hard ... Show More
1h 10m
May 2025
262. Why Being Easygoing Doesn't Make You a Better Person
"I feel guilty after speaking up for myself." "They probably think I'm a b*tch." "I should have said that nicer." Do these thoughts sound familiar to you? The guilt you feel after stating what you want isn't random or your fault - it's systematic conditioning. In this episode, I' ... Show More
20m 36s
Aug 21
275. How to Advocate for Yourself When Others Don’t Understand You
Feeling misunderstood is exhausting. When you’re worried about being too much or too hard to read, it’s easy to slip into performing instead of simply being yourself. And during summer, when social situations ramp up, that pressure to change or fit in can feel even heavier.In thi ... Show More
35m 3s
Sep 16
Imperfect Progress: Why Small Steps Matter
Ever find yourself staring at a task and thinking, “If I can’t do it perfectly, what's the point of even trying!”?In this episode, we’re letting go of that all-or-nothing pressure. Because real progress? It’s rarely glamorous. It’s usually quiet, clumsy, and small. But it still c ... Show More
14m 15s
May 2025
7 Harsh Truths I Wish I Knew in My 20’s (I Would’ve Found My Purpose QUICK!)
When was the last time you looked back and thought, “If only I knew this earlier”? In this episode, Jay shares the seven life-changing lessons he wishes he’d learned in his teens and twenties—insights that could have reshaped his relationships, career, peace of mind, and sense of ... Show More
42m 33s