logo
episode-header-image
Jun 2025
47m 55s

The NICU Dad Experience: A father’s view...

Katie Taylor, CCLS
About this episode

What happens when your world changes with a single phone call? In this powerful reposted episode, NICU dad and advocate Alex Zavala shares his emotional journey of fatherhood after his daughter was born at just 27 weeks. From the emergency C-section and NICU stay to the emotional toll of the "NICU dad shuffle," Alex opens up about the lesser-heard experience of dads navigating medical trauma, guilt, and resilience.

As the host of the NICU Dad Podcast, Alex continues to amplify the voices of fathers facing similar experiences. This conversation is an essential listen for NICU families and healthcare professionals alike, reminding us of the often unseen emotional weight fathers carry and how vital their perspective is in family-centered care.

 

Key Takeaways from this week’s episode:

 

  • Premature birth can happen suddenly

  • Fathers experience trauma too 

  • The “NICU dad shuffle” is real 

  • Life after the NICU is still challenging

  • Community and storytelling are healing for fathers

 

Timestamps & Key Topics

  • [00:00] – Welcome & Episode Intro
    Alex’s story as a NICU dad begins with two premature daughters
  • [04:00] – The NICU Numbers That Stay With You
    27 weeks. 2 lbs. 5 oz. 67 days in the NICU—numbers you never forget
  • [06:00] – A High-Risk Pregnancy & Sudden Crisis
    Despite a stable pregnancy, a 9:00 AM phone call changes everything
  • [10:00] – The Emergency C-Section
    Racing to the hospital, trauma in the OR, and feeling helpless
  • [15:00] – A Whirlwind of Fear & Responsibility
    Trying to stay strong for his wife and unborn child amid chaos
  • [20:00] – The NICU Dad Shuffle Begins
    Managing hospital visits, home life, and caring for the rest of the family
  • [27:00] – The Guilt of Having to Choose
    The emotional strain of not being able to be everywhere at once
  • [33:00] – First NICU Visit & Early Trauma
    Walking into the NICU for the first time—alone, overwhelmed, and unsure
  • [38:00] – Life After the NICU: It Gets Harder
    Why going home with a medically fragile baby brought even more pressure
  • [40:00] – Dads Carry Trauma Too
    Postpartum stress, partner support, and being the emotional anchor
  • [42:00] – Healing Through Storytelling
    Why sharing his story and connecting with other NICU dads has been life-changing
  • [44:00] – Where to Find Support

💪 Join the NICU Dad Push-Up Challenge!
NICU dads carry an invisible weight—emotionally, mentally, and physically. The "Built For This" Push-Up Challenge is a powerful way to honor that strength. Complete 100 push-ups a day for the number of days your child spent in the NICU, share your journey on social, and tag fellow NICU dads to join.

This isn’t just a fitness challenge—it’s a movement to raise awareness and spotlight the resilience of NICU fathers.

🔗 Use hashtags: #musclesandmiracles #pushwithpurpose #thenicudadpushupchallenge

 

Resources & Links from today’s episode

📌 Follow Alex & The NICU Dad Community:

🎧 More episodes: Child Life On Call

Share This Episode

Know a NICU dad, partner, or healthcare team that would benefit from hearing a father's perspective? Share this powerful story to spark compassion, awareness, and connection.

🎙️ Subscribe & Review: Help more families find these stories by subscribing and leaving a review.

📩 Contact us: lyndsey@childlifeoncall.com

🎧 Listen Now and Honor the Stories of NICU Fathers Like Alex



The Child Life On Call Podcast is for informational and educational purposes only. The content shared in each episode, including stories, discussions, and interviews, is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified healthcare provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay seeking it because of something you heard on this podcast. The views and opinions expressed by guests on the Child Life On Call Podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect those of Child Life On Call. Child Life On Call does not endorse any specific medical treatments, procedures, or opinions shared in the podcast. If you or your child are experiencing a medical emergency, call 911 or seek immediate medical attention. By listening to this podcast, you acknowledge that Child Life On Call and its affiliates are not responsible for any decisions made based on the information provided.




Up next
Oct 22
From Early Diagnosis to the Power of Community and Humor in Type 1 Diabetes (276)- Stacey's Story
When Stacey’s toddler was diagnosed with Type 1 diabetes, her family’s world turned upside down. In this episode, she shares the early warning signs, the struggle of those first two weeks of injections, and how humor and community turned fear into resilience. Parents will gain ho ... Show More
35m 44s
Oct 15
NICU, Down syndrome and Infant Loss: A Grief Story and Children's Book( 275) - Teejay + Jon's Story
In this incredibly personal and moving episode, we sit down with Teejay and Jon, the authors of the gentle children's book Clemence, to share the full, raw story of their daughter, Nadiya. Their journey began with an unexpected connection—a transatlantic online romance between Te ... Show More
39m 45s
Oct 7
US News Children's Hospital Rankings 2025: Why the BEST Outcomes Demand the Human Touch (with Ben Harder)
Is the "best" hospital just about technology and surgical success? Ben Harder, the journalist who oversees the methodology and data for the U.S. News Best Children's Hospitals Rankings (2025), joins Katie to break down what truly defines quality in pediatric care. Ben shares his ... Show More
39m 46s
Recommended Episodes
Sep 29
How do we build resilience in our kids without being harsh or overprotective
<p><a target="_blank" href="https://www.buzzsprout.com/twilio/text_messages/1255388/open_sms">Send us a text</a></p><p>Do you ever hear your child say things like, <em>“I’m such a bad kid”</em> or <em>“I’ll never be good at this”</em> and your heart sinks because you don’t know w ... Show More
50m 41s
Sep 17
Big Kids, Bigger Feelings: Navigating Defiance, Meltdowns, and Anxiety to Raise Confident, Connected Kids
Big kids mean big feelings and sometimes that shows up as defiance, meltdowns, or even anxiety. In this episode, I’m breaking down what’s really going on beneath the surface and why it’s not just “bad behavior.” We often think school-aged is cruising with emotions but big feeling ... Show More
51m 48s
Jun 2022
012 - MOTHERHOOD MONDAY - How to Talk to Your Kids about Hard Things While Protecting Your Family’s Peace
<p><span style='font-weight: 400;'>It can feel really hard to explain to our kids what’s going on in the world these days. With what’s happened in Texas and other events in the news recently, we can find ourselves caught between wanting our children to be aware of what’s going on ... Show More
25m 37s
Sep 15
How to connect with a child that shuts you down (without losing your cool)
<p><a target="_blank" href="https://www.buzzsprout.com/twilio/text_messages/1255388/open_sms">Send us a text</a></p><p>This episode will change how you see your child’s moods <em>and</em> how you respond to them.</p><p>If you’ve ever tiptoed around your child in the morning, worr ... Show More
1h 8m
Feb 2025
When Sad Stories Hit the News: How Parents Can Talk to Kids Without Fear
Talking to kids about the news requires honesty while maintaining a sense of security. Open conversations help build trust, allowing kids to ask questions and process difficult topics in a supportive environment.  This week, I welcome Rebecca Jarvis, contributing anchor at Goo ... Show More
55m 14s
May 2025
The #1 Thing Kids Need From You (Especially When They Mess Up)
<p><span>Do you want your child to always feel safe enough to come to you, no matter what mistakes they&#39;ve made? Are you sometimes unsure how to react when your child disappoints you, without resorting to punishment or judgment?</span></p><p><br></p><p><span>Today, we&#39;re ... Show More
8m 59s
Sep 8
How To Talk To Kids About Death, Suicide, And Other Difficult Topics
CW: Death, Suicide, Tragedy, DivorceThis week, Jess and Scott tackle difficult conversations: death, suicide, divorce, loss, and tragedy in the news. Drawing from Scott's personal experience with suicide in his family and Jess's expertise as a child therapist, they offer a raw an ... Show More
37m 6s
Aug 27
From Toddler to Teen: Building Confidence, Resilience, and Emotional Strength with Lighthouse Parenting
How to raise kids who are confident, resilient, and emotionally strong without controlling their every move? Dr. Ken Ginsburg, pediatrician, adolescent medicine specialist, and author of Lighthouse Parenting, joins me to share how parents can be a stable guiding presence while st ... Show More
51m 34s
Mar 2025
How to have emotionally intelligent arguments with your partner
<p><a target="_blank" href="https://www.buzzsprout.com/twilio/text_messages/1255388/open_sms">Send us a text</a></p><p>Ever caught yourself rattling off an endless list of reminders to your partner before they take the kids somewhere? &quot;Don&apos;t forget snacks, water bottles ... Show More
30m 56s