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Jun 3
24m 13s

3 Reasons Why Your Anxious Attachment Is...

bethathealinggirl
About this episode

We’re unpacking the 3 big reasons your anxious attachment isn’t healing, even if you’re doing everything “right.” Spoiler: it’s not about trying harder… it’s about trying differently.

If you’re a high-achieving, self-aware, anxious girlie who still feels like a walking red flag in relationships, this one’s for you.

We’re talking:

✨ Why performing yur healing is keeping you stuck

✨ The myth of linear progress (and why healing is actually a spiral staircase

✨ How to stop overwatering the plant and just let it grow 🪴

Plus, I’m sharing a wild story from the internet girlie streets (hi, Wizard Liz 👀) that proves you can be a literal goddess and still get ghosted, cheated on, or confused AF in love.

💌 JOIN THE HEALING GIRL GANG If you’re ready to actually break the anxious cycle and learn to feel safe in your body (not just in theory), come hang with us inside the Girl Gang. Monthly deep dives, nervous system rituals, and a no-perfection zone.

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