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May 22
27m 55s

Why High Achievers Feel Out of Control W...

Alana Kessler
About this episode

In this episode, Alana shines a light on the hidden realities faced by high-achieving women who seem to have it all together on the outside, yet secretly struggle with emotional eating and bingeing behind closed doors. Drawing from her own journey and the experiences of the women she mentors, Alana discusses the chasm between outward success and inner struggle, and the silent burden of always being “the strong one.” She unpacks the societal conditioning that rewards perfection and independence while making it difficult to ask for help or admit vulnerability. With empathy and authenticity, Alana explores why food so often becomes a secret relief valve for unexpressed emotions, exhaustion, and unmet needs. She encourages listeners to embrace honesty, seek support, and integrate all parts of themselves, reminding us that true strength lies not in keeping it all together, but in allowing ourselves to be real and seen.

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Takeaways

  • High-functioning women often struggle with emotional eating.

  • There is a disconnect between public success and private struggles.

  • Binge eating can serve as a release valve for pent-up emotions.

  • Asking for help is a sign of strength, not weakness.

  • The pressure to maintain a perfect image can lead to shame.

  • Healing requires honesty and permission to be vulnerable.

Chapters

00:00 The High-Functioning Woman's Struggle

03:00 The Double Life of Success and Inner Struggle

08:58 Binge Eating as a Release Valve

12:05 The Disconnect Between Public and Private Selves

14:46 Asking for Help and Redefining Strength

20:56 Integrating the Self: Healing in Plain Sight

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