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May 29
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396. Why You Obsess Over Some People's O...

KARA LOEWENTHEIL
About this episode

Why do some opinions bounce right off us, while others stick like taffy, lingering in our minds and draining our energy? This isn’t random—it’s actually a clue to how our brains process feedback and, more importantly, what we really believe about ourselves.

In this episode, I’m diving into why we get fixated on some people’s opinions, even when they shouldn’t matter as much, and why others’ judgments just slide right by. The truth is, it’s not about the other person’s opinion—it’s about the internal fears and doubts we haven’t fully addressed. Listen in to learn why we think this way and how to break this pattern.

Get full show notes, transcript, and more information here: https://schoolofnewfeministthought.com/396

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