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May 21
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What Are The Signs That An Avoidant Ex I...

Annalisa Bahadur
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This is a recording of the regular Wednesday live Instagram. On today’s episode we answered these questions 👇…and more…


What are the signs that an avoidant ex is forever gone and the relationship has ended 

Man has been living a double life. He’s been in two relationships while messaging other women. What should I do? 

Do avoidant people honestly love and care about you, or is it just a game? 

If I have awareness that I am an anxious attached person and my partner is fearful avoidant, how can I make this work? 

How to not be a manipulator? 

Would telling a dismissive avoidant I now see my partner in our disconnection and break up with them help mend things? 

Is there a way to reignite the spark after you’ve lost interest or should we give up? 

How to work on anxiety and overthinking? 

What does it mean when an avoidant attached keeps replying to you but says they have no idea what to say? 

Why do avoidant give mixed signals and vague responses when asked for honesty? 

Why can’t an avoidant tell their ex to leave them alone and go away? 


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