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May 2025
1h 19m

Don't Let These Silent Killers Destroy Y...

MATTHEW HUSSEY
About this episode

What REALLY kills relationships? We often think it’s huge differences in personality or values that cause break ups, but just as often it’s the small, subtle, repeated behaviours that lead to relationships ending.

From the "Four Horsemen" of relationship conflict to the resentments that go unspoken until it’s too late, Matthew, Stephen and Audrey explore how these silent killers show up—and how to catch and heal them before they do lasting damage.


Topics include

  • A deep dive into criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling (and how they sabotage love)
  • Why “repair” matters more than perfection in long-term relationships
  • The unconscious reasons some people can't say sorry and how to deal with it
  • How resentment builds when we don’t feel seen, appreciated, or included
  • The importance of creating a relationship culture where nothing is off-limits to talk about
  • A listener question about red flags before marriage
  • The difference between expecting love to be perfect vs. building a love that lasts


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