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Mar 2025
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250. Stop Running Your Life Like It's Fa...

Amanda Hess: Certified Life Coach For Neurodivergent Women
About this episode

We live in a world that constantly prioritizes convenience—fast food, quick fixes, and instant results. But what happens when we take that same approach to our own lives? In this episode, I dive into how we’ve been conditioned to prioritize efficiency over true self-investment and why that’s holding us back from real growth, joy, and fulfillment. If you’ve ever struggled with feeling like an “inconvenience” or putting yourself last, this episode is for you.

Episode Breakdown:

🕒 [0:00 - 2:30] | The Lightbulb Moment

  • How this topic came to me while driving home from spin class.
  • The realization: We’ve been trained to think of ourselves as “convenient” or “inconvenient.”
  • The connection between convenience culture and how we treat ourselves.

🕒 [2:30 - 6:00] | The Fast Food Analogy 🍔

  • Why we can’t build a strong, fulfilling life using a “fast food” approach.
  • The difference between cheap, quick fixes vs. meaningful, long-term investments.
  • The impact of always choosing the easiest, lowest-cost option—whether with time, money, or energy.

🕒 [6:00 - 9:30] | The Convenience of Input vs. The Inconvenience of Output

  • We often choose what’s easy and efficient (the “fast food” input).
  • But that leads to long-term dissatisfaction, burnout, and lack of fulfillment.
  • The cycle of cutting corners and why it never leads to real happiness.

🕒 [9:30 - 12:00] | Time Audit: How Much Are You Really Investing in Yourself?

  • A quick self-check: How much time do you spend purely on YOU (not for work, family, or others)?
  • Why most women answer less than an hour per week—or even zero.
  • The hidden consequences of constantly deprioritizing yourself.

🕒 [12:00 - 15:30] | Money Audit: Are You Always Looking for the Cheapest Option?

  • A second self-check: How much money have you spent only on yourself in the past year?
  • Why we spend so much on family, homes, and responsibilities but almost nothing on ourselves.
  • The real cost of only buying things for ourselves if they’re on sale.

🕒 [15:30 - 18:00] | The House vs. Fast Food Comparison 🏡

  • When you buy a house, do you pick the absolute cheapest one with poor materials and bad insulation? No!
  • Yet, we do this with ourselves—choosing “cheap” solutions instead of quality investments.
  • What would happen if you built yourself the way you build a home—thoughtfully, intentionally, with care?

🕒 [18:00 - 20:30] | The Power of Real Self-Investment

  • How investing in yourself expands your capacity—to handle stress, relationships, work, and life.
  • Why the belief that “investing in myself takes away from others” is a LIE.
  • How my personal coaching and self-development investments have made me better in all areas of life.

🕒 [20:30 - 23:00] | Stop Looking for the Quickest Fix

  • The obsession with shortcuts and why they often lead to more frustration.
  • The importance of consistency over speed.
  • Why the “slow, nourishing” approach is the one that actually works.

🕒 [23:00 - 25:00] | Final Thoughts + Action Steps

  • How to start making better investments in yourself—with time and money.
  • The first step: Start with nervous system regulation (grab my free 5-minute reset at joinamanda.ca).
  • A reminder: You deserve more than the clearance section of life.

🎧 Ready to stop treating yourself like fast food? Listen now!

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