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Jan 2025
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244. Turning Labels Into Stepping Stones

Amanda Hess: Certified Life Coach For Neurodivergent Women
About this episode

Have you ever felt stuck because of the labels you or others have placed on you? In this episode, we’re taking a deep dive into how labels shape our lives—for better or worse.

Labels can offer clarity, community, and tools for growth, but they can also hold us back when we use them to justify staying stuck. Together, we’ll unpack why our brains love labels, how to recognize when they’re helping versus hurting, and the steps you can take to break free from limiting beliefs.

This episode is packed with actionable insights to help you shift your mindset, regulate your emotions, and create a life that feels fulfilling and aligned—no matter what challenges or labels you’re navigating. Whether it’s ADHD, dyslexia, or the dreaded “people pleaser” identity, I’ll show you how to turn your labels into stepping stones instead of roadblocks.

💡 Ready to dive deeper? Join me for my masterclass on January 30th to learn how to build confidence, self-esteem, and emotional resilience. Grab your spot at joinamanda.ca.

📞 Or book a free discovery call with me at amandahess.ca/bookacall.

Let’s rewrite your story—one empowering step at a time.

 

[00:01] Introduction

  • Why labels are such a significant topic and how they often impact my clients’ results.
  • The invitation to listen with an open heart and curiosity.

[02:45] The Human Brain’s Need for Efficiency

  • How our brains naturally create and use labels to categorize information.
  • Understanding subconscious vs. conscious brain activity.

[07:10] How Labels Serve Us

  • Labels as tools for understanding ourselves and finding community.
  • Examples: ADHD, ASD, and dyslexia—what they reveal and how they can guide us.

[14:30] When Labels Hold Us Back

  • The dangers of over-identifying with labels and how they limit potential.
  • Why “I can’t do this because of [label]” is a thought, not a fact.

[21:00] Emotional Responsibility and Regulation

  • The importance of taking charge of your emotional well-being.
  • Practical tips for handling overwhelm, procrastination, and executive dysfunction.

[28:45] Rewriting the Narrative

  • Shifting from “this is just how I am” to “this is something I can work with.”
  • Personal examples of how I’ve navigated labels like sensitivity and depression.

[34:20] Individuality Beyond Labels

  • Why no two people are exactly the same, even within shared labels.
  • How to embrace your unique personality while working through challenges.

[38:55] Practical Coaching Insights

  • How to dissect specific struggles (e.g., procrastination, people-pleasing) for tailored solutions.
  • The importance of nervous system regulation and intentional self-coaching.

[47:10] Final Thoughts and Encouragement

  • Why nothing about you is permanent and everything is figureoutable.
  • A reminder to use labels as tools for empowerment, not barriers to success.

[50:30] Ways to Work With Me

  • Masterclass: Join me on January 30th at 5 PM PST / 8 PM EST for an interactive session on building confidence and self-esteem. Sign up at joinamanda.ca.
  • Discovery Calls: Book a free call at amandahess.ca/bookacall to explore personalized coaching options.

Let’s break free from limiting labels and create a life that truly reflects your potential.

Don’t forget to leave a review if you enjoyed this episode—it helps me reach more amazing women like you! See you next week!

 

 

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