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Nov 2024
24m 3s

236. Is Gratitude Overrated?

Amanda Hess: Certified Life Coach For Neurodivergent Women
About this episode

In this episode, we delve into the complexities of gratitude. As American Thanksgiving approaches, gratitude becomes a hot topic, but is forcing gratitude always a good idea? I explore why it’s okay not to feel grateful during challenging times and how embracing intentionality and celebration can create genuine positive emotions. Listen in as I share personal stories, insights from coaching sessions, and actionable steps to help you break free from fake gratitude and step into a more fulfilling life.

Episode Highlights with Timestamps:

[00:00] - Introduction: Amanda introduces the topic of gratitude and explains the inspiration behind this episode—American Thanksgiving.

[02:30] - The Problem with Forced Gratitude: Amanda shares her perspective on why forcing gratitude can feel like gaslighting and why it’s often counterproductive during tough times.

[06:15] - Real Gratitude vs. Fake Gratitude:  What is real gratitude? Amanda explains how genuine gratitude emerges naturally after processing emotions, rather than as a forced response.

[09:40] - The Power of CelebrationAmanda discusses how celebrating achievements, no matter how small, can be more impactful than surface-level gratitude practices.

[12:25] - Client Story: Finding Deeper CelebrationsA client’s journey to celebrating her ability to trust her own decisions rather than relying on others.

[14:45] - Why Gratitude Feels Hollow:  Amanda shares how “ticking the gratitude box” often doesn’t spark meaningful change or fulfillment.

[17:30] - Overcoming Fear to Access Joy and Fulfillment:  Using her own figure skating experience, Amanda illustrates how pushing through fear leads to deeper emotions of pride, excitement, and joy.[22:50] - Fear as the Gateway to Growth:  Amanda reframes fear as a necessary component of growth and shares how discomfort can lead to significant emotional payoffs.

[26:10] - Practical Steps to Break Out of Your Comfort Zone:  Amanda offers actionable advice on how to step out of your comfort zone and create more connection, joy, and excitement in your life.[30:15] - Coaching Strategies for Tackling Anxiety and Fear:  Amanda discusses how breaking down anxiety into manageable pieces helps clients move past fears and achieve meaningful goals.

[34:00] - Why True Gratitude is Built Through Action:  Amanda shares how living intentionally and taking courageous steps fosters authentic gratitude.

[37:40] - Call to Action:  Amanda invites listeners to book a discovery call to begin their transformation journey and reminds them not to wait until the new year to start.

Key Quotes:

“If you’re forcing gratitude, it’s not gratitude; it’s gaslighting yourself.”

“Real gratitude comes when we’ve processed the hard stuff and see how it’s shaped us.”

“The price we pay for joy, pride, and fulfillment is stepping out of our comfort zones.”

“Don’t wait until the new year to start your transformation. You can start feeling different tomorrow.”

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