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May 2025
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How To Shift Your Energy From “Chasing” ...

ALLISON WETIG AND CEARA KIRKPATRICK
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Ep 226: In this episode, Allison and Ceara deep dive into the energetics of chasing versus attraction and how it applies to relationships, career, friendships, money, and self-worth. We share why it’s important to align your energy to a place of abundance and confidence in order to obtain the opportunities, jobs, situations, experiences and friendship that you want. 

Chasing these things typically leads to exhaustion, feeling worthless, burned out, and fearful. We share tangible tips, quotes and personal lessons that have helped us overcome “chasing” so that we could make space for better, more aligned things to come our way instead.


TAKEAWAYS:

  • The best energy you can be in is knowing “I will be good no matter what. I will attract what’s meant for me no matter what” 
  • You don’t have to beg for what’s meant for you. When you align, it arrives.
  • Chasing comes from fear. Attraction is rooted in trust and self-worth.
  • The more you know yourself, the less you tolerate what isn’t for you.
  • Slow down, tune in, and let life come to you.
  • You’re not behind — you’re being prepared for something that fits you better.


RELATED EPISODES:

Ep 105: Career Advice, How To Change Careers and Burnout with Ashley Stahl

Ep 125: Why You Might Be Overwhelmed and How To Ground Yourself When Life Gets Stressful

Ep 136: Is It Time To Close A Friendship Chapter?


MENTIONS:

Ceara Favorite Restaurants in London:

The Buttery - Breakfast in London

Dishoom - Indian food

Bourough Market - Food Market

Nate Bargatze - SNL Skit Washington’s Dream

Why We Call It “Soccer” 

Allison Spa Rec in Tulum - Quinto Elemento

Allison Money Audiobook Rec - Love Money, Money Loves You


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