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Dec 2021
59m 52s

Breaking the Binary w/Addison Rose Vince...

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About this episode

You might think that “breaking the binary” is only about breaking the gender binary, but there is so much more to binary thinking. 

Binary thinking refers to anytime we see the world as one way OR another. Binary thinking allows no room for the in-between. And Dominant Stories thrive on binary thinking. 

To help us explore how thinking differently about our gender, beauty fashion, and identity can help us break free from our limiting beliefs, Jess is joined by two incredible guests:

Addison Rose Vincent is an educator, LGBTQ+ advocate, speaker, and community organizer. Since coming out as trans and nonbinary in 2010, they’ve been dedicated to creating systemic change across the country. Addison eloquently breaks down what binary thinking means, and how challenging it can help us in our everyday lives. They have some pretty incredible stories to share about trans joy and gender euphoria as well! 

Nicolette Mason is a fashion writer and creative consultant, you’ve probably read her work in Marie Claire, Glamour, Teen Vogue, or Refinery29. Nicolette hones in on how binaries play out in the fashion and beauty industries. It might surprise you to learn how much of an effect these industries have on us, and especially the self esteem of women and girls. Nicolette has been working for more than 12 years to push the needle on LGBTQ+ and body-size inclusion. 

You can find Addison Rose Vincent @breakingthebinary (@breakingthebinary_ on Tiktok) or at www.breakthebinaryllc.com. You can find the Nonbinary and Intersex Recognition Project’s site, which Addison mentioned, at nirp.us. And you can find Nicolette Mason @nicolettemason or at nicolettemason.com

If you’d like access to resources to help you be a better ally, (or “accomplice,” as Jess likes to say), the beauty brand Dove has created “Proud To Be Me” to address topics ranging from inclusive language, avoiding misgendering, and challenging negative body talk. Go to Dove.com/ProudToBeMe to learn more. 

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