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Sep 2025
41m 11s

When Men Say They’ve Been Abused: A Conv...

Kerry McAvoy, Ph.D.
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Disclaimer: This interview features perspectives from a male divorce coach navigating toxic dynamics. While some views expressed differ from those of trauma-informed psychology, I found it valuable to explore these tensions in real time. Please listen with care, and note that I challenge certain assumptions as we go. This week, I sit down with Josh Tomeoni, ... Show More
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