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May 2025
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Why Some Traumatized People Think Focusi...

Anna Runkle
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In this video, I respond to an angry comment on my YouTube channel from a woman annoyed that some people appear to accept others' bad behavior, justifying it as "trauma." Hear the comment, and my take on why some people with CPTSD take a hard-ass approach to healing that I call "The Cowboy Response." While she's not very kind, she's not wrong!

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