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Jan 2025
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427 SelfWork: The Horrors of Marital Rap...

MARGARET ROBINSON RUTHERFORD PHD
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We’re talking about sexual abuse today – to be more specific, the horrors of marital rape. Please if you have any kind of history of abuse which many of you I’m sure do – please listen cautiously as the facts of the case could be highly triggering for you. For international abuse hotlines please look in the show notes. You may have heard about the French w ... Show More
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