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May 10
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#187: Is It Better to Heal While Single ...

Stephanie Rigg
About this episode

Whether you’re single or partnered, you might find yourself wondering: Am I in the right place to do this work? There’s often an unspoken belief that there’s a “best” time to heal — and that if we’re not doing it in the ideal conditions, we’re doing it wrong.

In this episode, I’ll explore:

  • The advantages and limitations of healing while single
  • Why being in a relationship can accelerate your growth (but only under the right conditions)
  • How emotional safety plays a key role in healing
  • Why the question itself might be coming from a place of fear, shame, or comparison
  • How to work with whatever season you're in and meet yourself there

Whether you're currently dating, in a relationship, or consciously taking space from romantic connection — this conversation will help you better understand the unique opportunities (and challenges) each path offers.

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