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May 9
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294. The psychology of the talking stage

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The dreaded talking stage. A whole new level of complexity that has been added to dating in our 20s. The talking stage is this strange should be about information gathering and date organising, but it's become such a snagging point for so many would be relationships. In today's episode, we discuss: 

  • Why we even have a talking stage
  • The 1 month rule for the talking stage 
  • Why they are so psychologically intense
  • The 3 signs you're never leaving the talking stage 
  • How to find closure
  • How to not get attached too quickly + so much more 

Listen now when you need a pep talk that you will survive the talking stage once more!

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