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Jan 2024
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#385 - Blindsided by a Breakup? How to D...

DR. LISA MARIE BOBBY
About this episode

Breakups are always hard. But when you're completely blindsided by a breakup, moving forward can be especially tough. 

It's normal to ruminate non-stop about what happened and the signs that you missed. And your ex likely didn't stick around long enough to give you answers either — if they avoided important conversations during your relationship, chances are they're really avoiding them now. 

So how can you make sense of this uniquely painful experience, heal your heart, and eventually, feel safe opening yourself up to love again? That's what we're talking about on this episode of the podcast. 

You'll learn about: 

  • Why blindsided breakups happen. 
  • Why they're so difficult to process. 
  • The path to growth and healing. 

I hope you'll join me!

xoxo, 

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby 

P.S. — If you want support from a true breakup recovery expert, schedule a free meeting with a clinician on my team. 

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