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Aug 11
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Ep. 302 - Why am I scared to move on fro...

Breakup Coach Dorothy
About this episode

You know you should move on, you even want to move on, but every time you start making progress, something inside you slams on the brakes. You sabotage your own healing, make excuses to stay stuck, or find reasons why you're "not ready yet." What if the thing keeping you trapped isn't love for your ex, it's fear of who you'll become without them? In this final episode of the series, I'm exposing the invisible barriers that keep you playing small and the exact process I'd use to shatter every limiting belief that's been keeping you caged. If you've ever wondered why you keep getting in your own way, this episode reveals what's really going on.


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