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Apr 2025
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You Were Taught to Be a Mirror, Not a Pe...

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You weren’t born to reflect other people’s needs—you were born to be seen. If you’ve spent your life performing, pleasing, disappearing just to survive, this video is your permission slip to come home to yourself. You don’t have to be a mirror anymore. You get to be a person. You get to be real. The mask is heavy. Let it fall.

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