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Feb 2025
1m 47s

the birth and reverb of friendship

DEREK SIVERS
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Imagine you’re a ghost. You drift through the world but nobody sees you. You’re disconnected. Then one day, after years of being invisible, someone sees you! You get to know each other, and become friends. Through that one connection, your life begins. I have few memories of childhood, maybe because it felt like nobody saw me. My life began at age 12 when I ... Show More
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