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May 2025
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How to have a better romantic relationsh...

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What is a romantic relationship “supposed” to look like? How do you feel when your relationship doesn’t check all the boxes? In this episode, licensed marriage and family therapist Stephanie Yates-Anyabwile talks about everything from how to get into couples counseling to navigating hard conversations to understanding the difference between relationship dynamics in reality and on reality TV (which she actually loves and thinks there’s a lot to learn from watching).


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Host: Chris Duffy (@chrisiduffy | chrisduffycomedy.com)

Guest: Stephanie Yates-Anyabwile (Instagram: @_steph.anya | Youtube: @stephanya


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