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Feb 2025
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E136 - Jillian Turecki: How To Find Love...

André Duqum
About this episode

Relationship expert Jillian Turecki reveals how to overcome the blocks that ruin relationships and begin crafting your love life from within. Jillian shares her personal journey, detailing the pivotal moments of miscarriage and divorce that transformed her perspective on love and relationships. She emphasizes that love truly begins with oneself, urging listeners to self-source their wholeness before seeking it in others. As the conversation unfolds, we delve into the pitfalls of expectations and how they can undermine relationships, while also discussing the importance of mindful approaches to love.

Jillian offers insights on how relationships act as mirrors, reflecting our inner selves and highlighting compatibility, especially during the often-glamorous honeymoon phase. Together, we demystify the concept of self-love, challenging societal misconceptions about love and relationships. We tackle tough questions like whether to break up or stay together, the dangers of falling for someone's potential, and identifying red flags, even those that may seem overly nice. 

Finally, we explore what men and women generally seek in relationships and the profound lessons she has learned about love, including the importance of making peace with our parents. This conversation is not just about finding the right partner; it’s a deep dive into understanding ourselves better, fostering healthier relationships, and ultimately creating the love life we desire. 


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0:00 Intro

1:10 Miscarriage & Divorce: The Turning Point that Changed Her Life

7:23 Love Begins With You

10:40 Self Sourcing Your Wholeness

14:55 Expectations Ruin Relationships

21:34 Finding the One & Surviving the Honeymoon Phase

27:38 Demystifying Self Love 

30:37 Ad: BetterHelp

32:13 Our Culture Gets This Wrong About Love

37:24 Should You Break Up or Stay Together? 

41:47 Don’t Fall in Love with Potential

45:40 Red Flags: Are They TOO Nice?

50:16 Cultivating Trust in Love & Life

56:48 What Men & Women Really Want (Generally)

1:02:17 Making Peace with Your Parents

1:08:08 The Biggest Lesson She’s Learned from Love

1:10:30 What It Means to Know Thyself 

1:12:31 Conclusion 

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Jillian Turecki is a relationship coach, teacher, podcaster, writer, and speaker who has devoted her life to helping people revolutionize their relationships with themselves. For over 20 years, Jillian has maintained a deep commitment to authenticity, compassion, and inner transformation as she follows her insatiable curiosity about what makes relationships thrive. 


Between Jillian’s podcast, “Jillian on Love,” her newsletter, “Love Weekly,” and her social media community, Jillian reaches millions of people who seek her actionable, compassionate, direct, and research-driven insight. As the founder of Jillian Turecki Coaching, Jillian has changed the lives of countless individuals around the world through her transformative workshops, courses, retreats, and one-on-one coaching sessions. Her forthcoming book is a groundbreaking look at love, partnership and self-love based on Jillian’s decades of experience and research.


Book "It Begins With You": https://www.jillianturecki.com/book

Website: https://www.jillianturecki.com

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jillianturecki/?hl=en


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