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Have you ever had a friend not text you back, and you’re certain that they’re mad at you? This is often a disruption in the process of mentalization: the ability to recognize that our thoughts and feelings might not be facts. Mentalization is a process we can all struggle with, b ... Show More
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It feels like the personality we have is the one we're stuck with, regardless of how much we wish we were different...but is that really the case? In today's episode we are joined by writer and author Olga Khazan who ran a year long experiment to see how much she could change her ... Show More
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How to change your personality
If you could change anything about your personality, anything at all, what would it be?
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Can we really change our personalities? In this episode, Forrest is joined by someone who’s actually tried most of the things we talk about on the podcast: journalist and author Olga Khazan. Olga shares the personal experiments that led to her becoming more extroverted and agreeable, and less neurotic. They discuss the Big Five personality traits, how behavi ... Show More
<p><strong>What if you could rewrite the code of your personality—on command?</strong> Not just <em>cope</em> with anxiety, overthinking, or social exhaustion… but <em>delete</em> the traits holding you back and install better ones? </p><p>This episo ... Show More
<p dir="ltr">Plus other intriguing questions answered such as: should you change your personality? What exactly is a personality anyway?</p> <p><strong> </strong></p> <p dir="ltr"><a href= "https://www.theatlantic.com/author/olga-khazan/">Olga Khazan is a staff writer for The Atl ... Show More
