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Mar 2025
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282. Can we change our personality?

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It feels like the personality we have is the one we're stuck with, regardless of how much we wish we were different...but is that really the case? In today's episode we are joined by writer and author Olga Khazan who ran a year long experiment to see how much she could change her personality to be more outgoing, less anxious and hopefully, happier. We discuss: 

  • The root of all personalities
  • What does science say is the best kind of personality
  • When does personality become stable 
  • Is it possible to change? 
  • How could we change our personality? 
  • The results of her experiment then & now + much more

Listen now! 

Olga's book here: https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Me-But-Better/Olga-Khazan/9781668012543 

 

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